As our parents age, we all deal with a variety of emotional issues. One of the most difficult hurdles can occur when we realize that our parent can no longer stay in their home. There are many options for our senior loved ones at that juncture in life, but many people opt to move mom or dad into their own home. The US Census Bureau reports that the number of parents moving in with adult children is on the rise since 2009.
There are many things to consider when moving a parent into your home. The decision to share your home with your parent is selfless, but will impact everyone’s life. Families should consider the following before making the move:
- Talk to your spouse and children about the changes that will need to occur in your daily routine. Quiet time may need to come earlier or a particular part of the home may be off limits for visiting friends.
- Where will your parent spend their time? Many times, a lower level is converted into a living space with a bedroom and bathroom for a parent. This allows everyone to have privacy while staying within close proximity.
- Who will cover the costs of updates to the home, additional food and expenses? Will you take over your parent’s finances and will your siblings want to be a part of that process?
- If your parent needs constant supervision or medical assistance, who will provide this care for them? Care giving a loved one can be emotionally draining, so respite care is essential for everyone’s well-being.
- How will your family and parent assess if the new living arrangement is working for everyone? Family meetings and open discussion about the challenges of sharing your home are important.
- Don’t forget to consider your parent’s emotional well-being even after they adjust to the move. Socializing is essential for everyone, so make sure that your parent has the opportunity to keep in touch with old friends or make new ones once they have settled in to your home.
The decision to move your parent into your home can be challenging but also very rewarding. Plan ahead with your parent and your family so that everyone is on board with the new living arrangement and have an open dialogue to address issues as they arise. Enjoy the extra time that you have with your parent as you continue to create meaningful memories for the entire family.
If your senior loved one is socially isolated and lonely during the day while you work or if you need respite care, an adult day care may be a great fit. Bon Vivant Adult Day Club is the premier adult day care provider located in Fenton, MO. Our mission at Bon Vivant Adult Day Club is to ensure our members enjoy Good Living Longer. We are licensed by the State of Missouri and welcome the opportunity to meet with you and your loved one to answer any questions you have about adult day care. Please feel free to visit our website at www.goodlivinglonger.com or call us at 636-343-1600.
Article by Beverly McKee, MSW, LCSW